What does it matter in the end?

"Being Mortal" is a book recommended by my friend who is also working in hospital.

Sometimes it seems like losing the purposes of working after a longer period.

I am not sure am I doing a right way or may be just doing for the sake of doing.

For sure right now, I am quenching for an inspiring mentor who I didnt find any in recent years.

May be is time to think how to reach it.

By the way, while reading the book all the predicament or the scenarios are encountered in my everyday lives, and it may someday happen to us.

I keep thinking what will I do or how should I do if I were in the stories.

As a records, there are some lines I would like to pen down :

-How to make live with living when we are at our weakest and most fragile and can't fend ourselves.

-If life designed to be safe but empty of anything else.

-We all seek a cause beyond ourselves. Beyond mere existence.

-You sit down, you make time. You are not determining whether they want treatment  X versus Y. You are trying to learn what's most important to them under circumstances-so that you can provide information and advice on the approach that gives them their best chance of achieving it.This process require as much listening as talking.

The words you use matter.

You shouldn't say "I am sorry things turned out this way." You should say " I wish things were different."You don't ask" what do you want when you are dying?", you ask, " If time becomes short, what is most important to you?"

-Our most cruel failure in how we treat the sick and the aged is the failure to recognize that they have priorities beyond merely being safe and living longer. 

- We think our job is to ensure health and survival, but really it is larger than that.It is to enable well-being and  well-being is about the reasons one wishes to be alive. Those reasons matter not just at the end of life, or when debility comes, but all along the way.

-Whenever serious illness or injury strikes and your body and mind breaks down, the vital questions are the same: What is your understanding of the situation and its potential outcomes? What are your fears and what are your hopes? What are the trade-offs you are willing to make and not willing to make? And what is the course of action the best serves this understanding?

-Peak-end rules, we remember the peak and the end makes the overall experience changed. That's why ending is important.

Reading a nice book is satisfying!!